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收集祝福，谢谢你！
本帖最后由 daisyHUANG 于 2021-11-10 09:46 编辑
我在10月9号的早上去找一位认识的人，她叫Nora Go, 亚州人，70多快80岁。中文名我是不知道，前年我做过她的护理。因为读书的原因，时间搭不上就没有去做。在后面的日子，她当我是亲人一般，每个月都会做些好食的让她的护理带给我，时常也会买些我喜欢的零食。在7月尾左右，她再没有联系我，然后我又忙著考试+工作，在10月觉得不寻常就打电话给她，电话没接，再过几天打，欠费了，在9号就直接跑到她家，没人开门。然后我有打电话到她的护理公司问，她公司说在7月就住院并停止服务，之于其它一切保密，不能告诉我。后来我再时间再去寻访，她楼下的保安是新来的无法告诉我情况。她有子女，女儿在波士顿，儿子在NY，女儿几年不会见她一次，儿子也是一年见不了几次。
美国的政府对老人都有护理照顾，所以子女似乎都不用照看。之前她的护理经常俾电话我，可是我没有保存。在我找不到她的时候，将没有名字的未接和已接电话都打过都找不到了。这里的电话保存时间非常短。
我想，如果人还在，电话一定会交费，这点我很了解她的。每次想起的时候心里是诉求佛菩萨护佑她，愿她能得佛灯照路不迷。心里总感觉不对劲，可能不在人世。而我什麽也帮不上。
有些后悔没有留下她护理的电话，以前没有留下她儿子或者女儿的电话。国外的中国人说多是多，认识的是真不多，每次收到她亲自做的食物和礼我都让她不要做了，很麻烦，她说有时间。因为相处过几个月，她知道我的喜好。她总是开开玩笑说，说我们是不是感觉像亲人，我笑笑说，是的。
这几天一直想，想帮她超度，但又找不到地方。何况，心里又有些“庆幸”，可能还在呢？
要知道，每当收到她的食物，我总是心里感恩和害怕。害怕什么？害怕欠下。其实，我自己不太喜欢与人太熟或者要别人的东西。而她好多次都让人送到我楼下俾电话我。每天打坐睡前心里都为这些老人祝福和感恩。其实我很懒，没有人情味，若然不是，不会这么迟才想打个电话给她，然后，人可能就不在了。
我去年忘记了她的生日，在当天她生日的时候送来了吃的，然后在过年我才回了礼。心里是打算在今年她生日一定要送礼物，就查了她的生日还特意记在手机记事本上。
10月30日的上周六，我第三次跑到她家的门贴上了纸贴，11月2号收到她女儿的短信，说她会向我说说她妈妈的情况。然后等，等到今天11月4号终于是没有忍住在手机上问她女儿，她给我回了这长长的Email. 很长，“她妈妈很严重，得了败血症，因为坏死，要切断手脚。准备转长期急症护理医院或临终关怀护理。。。。。。”让人难以置信。 打算明天下班将去看望。
11 月5日， 昨晚收到她女儿的Email和手机的留言，告诉我今天不能去探望，因为现在医院严格规定，一天只能两人探望。可能是有其它朋友约了。而我现在也想起我昨天才打了疫苗第三针，不知道是否可以探望。
目前这个婆婆是不乐观，随时有生命危险。
上面写的不太详尽，和她相识是在偶然。。。
她女儿是基督教徒，在中国的四川领养了好像是三个孩子，有些还是有缺陷的。
高婆婆告诉我，爱，是需要分享。
而我也曾和她聊起过佛教，因为某些事她曾对佛教有些误解。
在此，收集大家对她的祝福，她的名字叫： Nora Go.
谢谢大家，非常感谢，感恩！！！！！！
附：她女儿的信。
Hello Daisy,
I am glad to know you have been staying in touch with my mother. Her friend Kim had mentioned of you a couple of times. I can't remember if I ever met you. At the mention of your name, Mom smiled. Thank you for coming by. I am sorry Mom has not been home to welcome your visits.
What I am about to tell you will undoubtedly deeply upset and disturb you. My brother and I struggled with this news for 2 weeks. Passing time and watching Mom's progress allowed the reality to sink in and gain slow acceptance. Everyone we've told has shared the same reaction. It is like something from a frightful novel, but love truly helps to go beyond the initial blow.
My mother came down with sepsis at the end of July. She was taken to the ER at NY Presbyterian downtown initially, then after 2 days had to be transferred to the Upper East side location for an emergency procedure. Overall, the ICU teams made heroic efforts over 8 days to pull her through septic shock. Her survival was a miracle by God's hand. But it came with severe consequences. She suffered necrosis in her right hand, left arm and both feet, therefore, eventually necessitated their permanent removal.
The first surgery was 8/25. The surgery for her feet had been expected a week later but numerous setbacks in her recovery arose, therefore postponing till Oct 6. Setbacks including asthma, fevers, pain management issues, discovered pockets of new infection needing attention, and declining food enough that insufficient nutrition temporarily cancelled the 2nd surgery.
She has been healing well from the recent surgery. But she is still very sick. There is still an abscess in her pelvis they have tried to drain for the last 8 weeks or so; it refuses to shrink, despite the powerful antibiotics being given to her during that time. At best this infection is being held at bay. Mom has been in bed for 97 days.
Last week the medical teams said they have reached a point at which they have exhausted all they can do for her and have asked us to consider transferring her care to either a long term acute care hospital or hospice care depending who is willing to take on Mom's complex case.
I wish I had better news to share. It has been a long, long hard road for Mom, my brother and me. I am grateful for the gift of time we have been granted with her. You are welcome to visit her anytime. She has good days and not so good days; they are hard to predict.
Nora is at NY Presbyterian, *******. The main visiting restriction is only 2 visitors per patient per day, 9am-9pm. I am the only one coming daily to see Mom. I think Kim wants to visit on Tuesdays, so that would be the only day in question. You would have to go through a quick screening and stand in line for security check and a visitor's badge. Let me know when you would like to visit and I can let you know if it's ok.
Thank you for caring and asking,
Carolyn |
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游客 发表于 2021-11-21 08:54